Before you set your 2020 resolutions, don't forget to savour 2019
I will leave the word resolutions for now, experts say they do not work but I still like to use the word (Graham, 2019; Weinschenk, 2016). Before you get into setting what the next year and decade might have in store for you, do not forget to reflect back on the last year and decade.
Back when I was a ski coaching facilitator I asked candidates the same thing at the end of every day, “tell me one thing you liked about today, one thing you learned, and one thing I (as the facilitator) could do better.” My intention was to let the positive bias the day (like), have students reflect about what they were working on (learn), and my goal was to always get better at what I was doing and meet the needs of the students at hand (better).
I use this tool in my life planning often. I think so often we are taught to look at what we are doing ‘wrong’ and fix it, as opposed to what we are doing well and work to our strengths.
I sat down the other day and asked myself the following questions:
1) What brought me joy?
2) What were some of the challenges I faced?
3) What were my major accomplishments?
4) What were my major setbacks?
Looking back at my list of joy and accomplishments it far outweighs my setbacks and challenges. It also gave me a chance to think about the lessons I learned through the successes and setbacks in 2019; the process made me thankful for all the things I got to do this year despite the challenges I faced. Sit down and ask yourself these questions, it will allow you to play to your strengths so you can foster a more positive relationship when tackling the challenges in your life.
I plan to share my process of setting my 2020 resolutions with you, not only does it hold me accountable it makes my goals public, something I spoke to before, and it is also a way to help you on your journey.
Graham, D. Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work (And What You Can Do Instead!). Forbes. Dec 27 2019.
Weinschenk, S. The Science of Why New Year’s Resolutions Don’t Work. Psychology Today. Dec 19 2016.